

Today my Mom turns 68 years old.
She is stopping by here in a little while for Coffee and Angel Food Cake. She has been visiting with a group of women friends for breakfast, and I am sure she is having a ball. She left Dad at home, therefore, she can truly have a Morning all about her.
She deserves it.
She works very hard and overdoes much. She always has. She is a doer. She thrives on helping others and making people happy. As a child, I thought she was a saint. I could not imagine being her. She had the roughest of childhoods, married young and had her children soon after. At 22 she & my father had a near fatal accident, leaving my father handicap and depressed. She has since done it all. My father depends on her more than he needs.
My mom is a rescuer. Be it stray pets, birds & squirrels, or any person needing help. She takes on more than she should but it makes her happy and feeling content when she is doing for others.
I love her very much.
I wish we were closer.
Unfortunately, she can cause pain, chaos and sorrow. She does not do this on purpose, which I do understand. But as any person whom loves someone that is manic knows, they will lash out at those they love the most. I never know what I will get.
I have to keep somewhat of a distance. I call her daily. Check on them, see what is going on, how they are. Dad is a Debbie Downer most the time. Mom just rambles about everything and everybody. Sometimes it is a wonderful conversation, sometimes I know when to cut it short. They mean well, but they can do some serious damage with words and actions sometimes.
I love her very much, and again, I wish we were closer. I will take what I can get. I will learn from this and become stronger and better.
As for my Mom, Barbara (aka Barb, Barbie & Babsie) Ruth Wright Meyer, I hope her day is lovely. I hope she will be in high spirits, and have a wonderful birthday.
Happy birthday to Barb. I hope she had a wonderful day and the coming year is filled with blessings for her.
ReplyDeleteI have insomnia again, so I'm just reading over some older posts on some recently discovered blogs.
ReplyDeleteI saw this one about your mother, and I totally related. I love my mother, and I can see so much good in her. But I have to maintain distance in order to preserve the parts of me that she tends to erode when we spend too much time together. I often think the best thing that happened (happens? I move a lot..) to our relationship was me going away.
Thanks for sharing. It's nice to know I'm not alone.