A dear girlfriend of mine had this quote taped to her refrigerator many years ago.
It is a very true statement. I have lost many precious moments spent around mean people. I have tried to be nice to them, made excuses for them and tried to figure them out. I have tried killing them with kindness in hopes that it would help them to try kindness as well. I had always been the kind of person that would see the good side of someone. Or say, they must have had a rough day or experience, to have such a cold heart. I would always be the one to turn the other cheek and to pray for these souls.
Then I got old. And "it" got old too.
Starting with the mean girls picking on others in High School. Then mean & immature coaches and administrators. Even mean people within your family. Do what you will, say what you will to me... but mess with my babies and something changes within. Enough is enough.
You start to realize sometimes you have to take a stand, and when you have young eyes watching how "you" will handle things, you realize you must be strong and stand up. If you allow and excuse meanness, then what are you saying about the acceptance of it? It is not okay to allow someone to walk all over another, take an advantage of someone, say cruel things or tell lies.
I copied the quote and put it on my refrigerator a couple of years ago. Now it sits proudly in my office, as a little reminder. I will continue to pray for mean people, but that is about it. I think I will spend my days with the nice people and enjoy this life we are given. Life is short, we should embrace it and give our attention to all the lovely people in it.
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